May 15, 2009
I thought I’d throw this in…it’s a quote I’ve said for a long time.
“If two individuals are happy individually, they then can be happy together. If one individual is unhappy, then no matter what happens, they can’t be happy as a couple.”
To me this means that each individual needs attack life to fulfill their own needs (the acts can be done together).
This may include participating in sports, working on a hobby, traveling, doing community service, spending time with one another, being with family, dancing, watching a sunset. The decision as to what to do is a personal choice.
If you reach out you then have something to talk about, something to be excited about, something to share while together, something that can make your life fulfilling and happy together.
The same person wearing a genuinely happy face appears more attractive than when they are unhappy. Fix your relationships with others, if that’s what’s eating you, and you’ll look better instantly.
April 16, 2009
Here’s something I learned from my wife and something that few men know. It’s that women may take just a quick peak at a man and then sneak peaks there after. Men on the other hand, for some odd reason, keep on looking long enough so that woman see the look. Most likely a trait that’s developed over 1000′s of years.
Now what does this have to do with you?
Think about it. If a man does not know your interested, how can they react appropriately. My suggestion is that a little longer peak would do a woman good. Those few extra seconds give a signal that at least the door is open. Otherwise, we have no clue!
Remember….Men Look and Women Peek.
July 2, 2008
Oh, is someone upset that I mentioned a beauty “contest?” Or is the reference to Hooters even worse?
Don’t be. There’s a point to this that affects women. Read on.
While my wife, Lorrie, was flipping through channels on the television one evening, she stopped on the 2008 Miss Hooters Contest for just a few minutes as they ran through the final swimsuit contestants. Next up was the selection of the final 10 contenders from a pool of about 129.
Now here’s the incredible part; from what we could see, at least 8 of the woman had natural breasts! Normal shaped, smaller, average breasts. They were selected by a group of about 10 men. The other two finalists were smaller in size, and if they did have breast work, we could not tell. Of the initial group of 129 women, a sizable number of girls had had some type of enhancements.
So next time you feel that being natural is a disadvantage, don’t. Guys see a complete package and so should you….brains included!
June 26, 2008
The next time you’re making choices about your skirt or dress length, throw out the rule that as you get older you need to go longer. Take a look at what you’re wearing and make your own choices. If you don’t like the condition of your legs, hosiery can cover a host of “evils,” so dress length doesn’t have to be your sole solution.
June 10, 2008
Beth asks me….”As a woman I’ve got so many shoes to pack, and airlines keep charging for extra bags just to bring my shoes with me. What can I do?”
Beth, first off let’s take a look at packing smart. Packing is not about shoes but about creating a look that works for you. If you’re a traveler, this is an extremely important first step. The reason is that travelers need to stick to a narrower range of colors so that when they pack, every piece becomes part of a combination machine.
Let me give you the strategy I use and one that’s easily transferable to anyone’s closet.
Perhaps you’ve heard of the process where people are categorized by seasons of the year, depending on what colors look good on them. Your skin color and tones, your natural hair color, and your eye color help the color consultant determine whether you look best in the warm, neutral colors of autumn or the cool, clear, brights of summer. I’m a winter. This means I can wear certain dark colors including certain grays, blacks and blues. Brown works, however, not as easily. Knowing that I only have so much space in my overnight bag, and ALL my business is out of town, I stick with only the blues, grays and blacks. This means my shoes also remain black. If I take one brown garment I must immediately bring a pair of brown shoes, and to me, it’s not worth the effort.
This approach means that when shopping, I only stick to a certain color range and my closet is also only in this range. The result is it’s pretty easy to pack. When I pack to the extreme, I take two additional pair of shoes: one pair of relaxing shoes, and a pair of Nike sneakers that are paper thin and take up almost no room.
Remember, my three pairs of shoes can take up the space of at least 4 pairs of women’s shoes.
Now for you, consider your color and style. Even though you may want to wear more colors, you, too, can stick to a pallet to increase the ability to use a single pair of shoes in multiple ways. A 3-inch pump can be worn, with slacks that come down to the street so that the shoe is seldom seen. The same shoe can be worn casually with jeans. Bring the pants up some and you’ve now got a new look. Use the same shoe with a skirt while shifting the attention to your belt, and now you’ve got 4 different styles with the same shoes. Remember, depending on whether you’re in a conservative business climate or not, you can also easily slip a pair of strappy sandals in for an exciting night-time look.
The “idea” that women need to bring a lot of shoes is not a myth; women do need to spice up their look more than men in this department. What I’m taking about is being smart about your approach. Keeping in a range, making combinations, and the fact that the shoes may have less size/weight means that if this philosophy cut down on 1 or 2 pair on a trip, you’re winning.
June 1, 2008
While traveling home last week from Alabama, I sat next to a young lady reading Redbook June 2008. While flipping through the magazine, she stopped on this page where I noticed that the writer did not offer enough descriptives as to why the outfits did or did not work. I selected these two outfits out of their lineup to show how simple changes can create huge results. Notice how in image Number One the woman appears waist heavy and a little dumpier. The pants stretch in the waist, the jacket flares out like on a pear and the rolled up sleeves don’t work.
If you feel that making the changes to the next picture are too much, just changing the style of pants and shoes would go a long way to fixing this outfit. A pair of straight-leg jeans or pants would at least remove the central focus.
Outfit Number Two is the same woman wearing different clothing. Wow. Yes, the same woman. She does not look full in the waist. (The smile does help) She also appears taller and has a bolder statement. The combination exemplifies how you to can make simple changes to give a completely different look.
May 6, 2008
When making a purchase, ask yourself, “If you had to pack for a trip and had limited space, would I select this item or would I bring an alternative item that makes me look better?” If you say no, then walk away. If you say yes, take a second look while asking yourself the following questions.
- Am I just adding something to my wardrobe that is very similar to another item knowing full well this is just an extra you’ll throw out one day?
- Does this item first match my color (winter, spring, summer, fall), the style and fashion sense you’re looking to achieve and lastly, could you find something better.
I often ask myself, if I purchased this item would I bring it on my next trip and most of the time I’ll hesitate just enough for me to stop. That’s the signal to put it back.