What Men Think: It Takes Two To Make a Couple

May 15, 2009

happinessI thought I’d throw this in…it’s a quote I’ve said for a long time.

“If two individuals are happy individually, they then can be happy together.  If one individual is unhappy, then no matter what happens, they can’t be happy as a couple.”

To me this means that each individual needs attack life to fulfill their own needs (the acts can be done together).

This may include participating in sports, working on a hobby, traveling, doing community service, spending time with one another, being with family, dancing, watching a sunset. The decision as to what to do is a personal choice.

If you reach out you then have something to talk about, something to be excited about, something to share while together, something that can make your life fulfilling and happy together.

Another thought…

The same person wearing a genuinely happy face appears more attractive than when they are unhappy.  Fix your relationships with others, if that’s what’s eating you, and you’ll look better instantly.

The Myth in Dressing Your Age – Tip #30

May 4, 2009

There’s a truth and a falsehood in the statement: “Dress your age.”

Wow, what a lot of room for discrepancy in interpretation! My philosophy is this:

While a sixty-year-old woman might look ridiculous in a 16-year-old teen’s bare midriff outfit, that woman of wisdom could wear a cute skirt that falls at mid thigh if she’s got the legs to pull it off. I say go for it!

If looking youthful for your age is important to you, here are some things to consider when building a wardrobe or dressing each day:

Perspective: when you’re healthy and happy with yourself and your life, you already exude a youthful glow. There’s a twinkle in your eye, a spirit to your step, and a spark to your personality that screams all that’s appealing about youth—flush to the skin, erect posture, ease of mobility. Without changing a stitch of clothing, you can see how your internal feelings affect your appearance.

Color: don’t feel that when you hit a certain age, like the big 4-0, that you suddenly have to weed out the fun colors and replace them with “safe” beiges, grays, and blacks. Although the latter are great colors for neutral items and provide a sound base for any wardrobe, infuse your daily outfits with pops of color in your blouse, a fun scarf, earrings, or shoes. While most women don’t pull off fuchsia peddle-pushers, they can add life to their getup with a blouse patterned in pops of fuchsia.

Trends: find what works for your body type, in other words, what plays up your figure and features first. Then, from that foundation, you can add a piece or two to your annual wardrobe from the current trends. Remember that you don’t have to follow the trend to the T. If the trend is a cropped pea coat, you can find a pea coat that falls at your hip instead. If the trend is round-toe stilettos, you can find a round-toe 1 ½” pump to update your look.

Overall, my message to you is this. As you age, you can still maintain a look of energy, vitality, and youth without making a fool of yourself. Women fear embarrassing themselves if they dress “too young.” My belief is that it’s always better to participate in the current trends instead of making do with granny skirts and tunics. The secret is in moderation.

How to Keep that Tan Leg Look – Tip #29

April 27, 2009

Creating Your Personal Style Airbursh LegsI know that for many women, summer is a challenge time of the year given that you want to have that tan look yet without sitting in the sun and possibly damaging your skin.  One option is the spray on tan and another I would recommend is the tanning product  Sally Hansen Airbrush Legs.

It’s funny, I’m trying to find a way to say, it’s OK be fair skinned and it’s OK to walk outside without color while at the same time I know that many fair skinned women want to have a little color since the American culture tends to favor a little bronze.

I know, I’ve lived with a beautiful fair skinned woman for 23 years.

There’s Clothing Out There for Everyone – Tip #28

April 20, 2009

Chris stated that she often goes shopping and finds there is nothing out there for her to wear. C’mon. Nothing out there. There is so much out there for women it’s incredible. In fact, there may be too much, if there can be such a thing.

Chris, there are a few things you must realize.

First, I’d bet the reason that you’re not finding anything is that what you’re looking for does not work for you, and therefore, when you try on the clothing it all looks bad. The color, the shape, the patterns.

The solution: start with the basics. Have your makeup touched up to fit a today’s you. Next, invest in a great a color chart to weed out what does not work. Next, focus on today’s basics. Pants that don’t hug the hips up high (think “Mom jeans”), straight-leg pants, cut tops and fashionable shoes. This goes for casual or for upscale.

Second, I’d bet that your eye is also looking for specific styles that you expect for your perceived age appropriateness, but what you think you should be wearing may not be currently available in stores. Here’s an analogy. When you start looking for a car, your mind learns a new shape and miraculously you start to see the car all over the place. The same with style. You need to train your eye to shapes and patterns that look like today’s women in your style.

The solution: find a body shape that mimics yours in magazines or in real life, and then start to watch what they wear. If they’re contemporary, you’ll start to create a new awareness and then the clothing will jump off the rack.Creating Your Personal Style Stair

Third, just because you’re a “shopper,” does not mean you know how to shop efficiently enough to avoid frustration. Walking, perusing, and purchasing seem simple enough, but without a strategy, you can end up at the finish of the experience frustrated that all you did was walk, peruse, and maybe purchase. Remember, the best shoppers shop in preparation and not desperation and say no a lot as they have the mindset they are building a wardrobe and not building a closet.

Based upon our conversation, this will take some changes, however it’s achievable.

What Men Think: Men Look, Women Peek

April 16, 2009

Here’s something I learned from my wife and something that few men know.  It’s that women may take just a quick peak at a man and then sneak peaks there after.  Men on the other hand, for some odd reason, keep on looking long enough so that woman see the look.  Most likely a trait that’s developed over 1000′s of years.

Now what does this have to do with you?

Think about it.  If a man does not know your interested, how can they react appropriately.  My suggestion is that a little longer peak would do a woman good.  Those few extra seconds give a signal that at least the door is open.  Otherwise, we have no clue!

Remember….Men Look and Women Peek.

Buying Smart When the Economy Is Failing – Tip #27

April 13, 2009

I’ve got to begin by saying that if you can’t afford to shop, DON’T shop.  I think too many people believe that because retail is doing poorly and there are bargains all over the place, that they need to pick up deals.  That’s plain wrong.  Even if the item you wanted was 90% off and you’d love to have it as part of your wardrobe, if you can’t afford to pay your credit card bills, then stay home.

What you can do, is start to think differently.  Change out the buttons on a suit and now you’ve got a new look.  Start to look at making different combinations of accessories and not the main garment.  This would mean that you wear your skirt without the top and fancy up the outfit with a blouse or your hair up.  Changing makeup applications and altering your shoes all make you look different.

Men do this all the time.  We don’t have 70 pairs of shoes nor do men have 40 outfits.  What they do is take the same outfit and modify the tie and wear a different color shirt.  Cuff links, watches, socks, rings, scarfs, overcoats all play a role.

Now, if you do have some cash, start to think how to change your look with little to no cost.

This means that a $500 designer blouse at a discount to $150 is still an expensive blouse when you can find similar garments for less, and no one will know the difference.  No one besides you and those you tell.  Besides, who do you need to impress all the time.  Good grooming doesn’t have to go designer.

(Please do believe that I’m not saying you need to shop at stores where there are poorly made products that don’t last or hurt to wear.  I am. however. saying purchase the Nike shoe from last season at $49 down from $110.)

This means to shop not at the top but at the bottom and look upward until you see something that works.  Drop by H&M or Macy’s or better yet that discount mall or store and start to scour the racks.  If there is nothing in terms of color, quality and fashion (remember color first) then jump up a notch.  Slowly.

Let me give you a personal example.  My wife and I were in NYC this weekend and she needed a white blouse that fit her color pallet.  We started at a discount store where there was nothing that worked, hit H&M and the kept moving up the line until we found a garment that was $60 that worked.  Then we discussed the style and in the end, she decided that the garments she found would not add to her wardrobe. The primary reason was the color was off a hair and the shirts looked similar to what she had at home.  We stopped.

I, too, do the same with all clothing.  When I look at ties, I don’t start at Versace even thought they have great designs.  What I’ve found is in ties, just as jeans, shirts, belts, etc., price does not dictate quality. When the Hummer was sold in the US, it was considered one of the worst cars in need of repairs right off the factory floor.   With sticker prices of $50,000+.

So, I start down at the bottom, and work my way up. I scan the discounted and cheaper garments first to see if there is a steal on the rack. I have a $400 leather jacket for $30 to show for it.

At a recent visit to one of my favorites stores, Century 21 in NYC, down in the Financial District, I went looking for a new pair of shoes and some ties realizing that these two items change my wardrobe quickly and less expensively than a suit.

I began to scour the racks for a pair of shoes in my size and then color.  (I only pack blacks–not black and browns–so that when I travel, I don’t have to have a second set of belts, shoes, and other items that match brown.) I then found a pair of Dolce & Gabbana shoes that were just perfect.  Unique and yet stylish.

On the ties I began at the cheapest section where ties run $9.00 for an $80 tie.  I found two and then I found several more for $12 and $16 and $24.  In the end, I walked out with one tie that I would wear.  Ironically, the tie I wore the next day to a friend’s wedding, that cost me $12.99, had more compliments over the past two months than any other tie I’ve owned (some very expensive).  People have actually gone out of their way to say they loved the tie.

So in a climate with or without opportunity, you don’t have to shop if you can’t afford it.  You can change a garment with simple button, or configurations of existing clothing.  You can shop more intelligently from the bottom up and find deals that give you the wardrobe you need.

This is also assuming you need something new, and it’s not your ego or need for affection that makes you have to buy. Maybe you should take a trip inward before taking a trip to the store.

Long Sleeves Make Great Short Sleeves – Tip #26

April 6, 2009

I can’t tell you how many shirts I’ve lost due to a small spot, a tear, or shrinking.  You know what I’m talking about: the shirt that once fit and now it does not; the shirt you don’t want to throw away, because you spent a small fortune or worse yet, you just looovvvvve the shirt and can’t stand the thought of its demise.

Maybe you’ve found a fabulous top but the sleeves are just too short.  Take the item to a tailor and covert it to either 3/4″ length sleeves or short sleeves.  A tailor might charge $8.00 and you get extended life out of the garment.

My entire short-sleeve collection has grown with some fancy fabrics using this tip.

Pedicures …French or solid? – Tip #25

March 30, 2009

French or SolidPedicures …French or solid?

Here are my thoughts.

If you’ve got great looking feet, and specifically toes, you can wear a French pedicure, on occasion.  As a rule, however, I would suggest going with solid for the majority of the time. There are two reasons why.

First, no one thinks that overgrown toenails are appealing.  In fact, when you see toes that need clipping, the thought is an instant “gross!”  French pedicures, although they’re pretty, do give the illusion that the toenails have grown out, since the white edges are now pronounced, even though falsely so.

The second reason is that if you’ve found a killer pair of open toed-shoes, you want them to be the star without having to compete with the whites of your toenails.

If you want to have fun and go to the beach, lounge around, enjoy a night on the town, go for it.

This all comes down to what is the package you’re trying to create, when you’re using it, and what for…

If it were up to me….SOLID.

The Purchase Test – Tip #24

October 27, 2008

I hear all the time that people are great shoppers and how they are just drawn to purchase something when they go shopping.  May I repeat myself, great shoppers can walk out of a store and only purchase what will enhance their wardrobe not just expand it.

As for the “compulsion to buy” use this little technique.  When you enter into a store click open your phone and take a picture of the marque.  Next, when you try on something and you feel the urge as the item is that wonderful, take another picture in the mirror of of the clothing on hanging. Then finish looking and leave the store.

Do this during your shopping excursion and when you’re finally done, review the pictures and go back and pick up everything that you are actually drawn to go back and buy.

Here’s what’s going to happen.  You won’t go back for the majority of the items and in most probablity you won’t go back for much at all unless it was absolutely special.

OK.  Your thinking, someone will purchase the item.  No, now your paranoid.  Most garments sit on the shelves for ages so if it’s meant to be it is meant to be.

I do this all the time and quite frankly if I can’t muster up the energy to return to a store I’m saying to myself, I don’t love it enough or it;s not really what I want/need.

The tip works wonders on your wallet, your closet and your psychy since your life is now not filled with things you don’t love.  I personally want to love what I own and wear.

You???

Touch, Touch, Touch – Tip #23

September 18, 2008

I don’t know about you, but I love to touch garments when shopping.  Anyone who has learned to shop with me  learns that one critical way to catch a great find is to touch, touch, touch. It’s key to finding what you want, once you’ve already determined that the color fits your pallet and the size works (or may work) for you.

Here’s how I do it.

Creating Your Personal Style Clohting Rack

I first make sure the color fits the color pallet.  No sense wasting time.  Then I scan the garments touching most of them with my hands as I rapidly move through the aisles.  The reason is simple.  I’m feeling for texture, something that’s tough to see, then my mind and my hands are waiting for that moment.

Sometimes the moment causes me to turn a a garment from the rack to the front.  You’d be surprised how often the face-forward garment is a killer and the turned sideways is not.  The touching also triggers a focal connection.  It’s so easy to get overwhelmed with the quantity of clothes you have to look through in a store. This hands-on approach helps to filter out the extra and keeps me focused.  Lastly, I can also tell the sales associate, “Do you have something like this fabric in a different style?” This opens doors to new possibilities.

You may think touching makes shopping slower…it doesn’t.

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